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Broken Relationship: 8 Steps for Christian To Reconcile!

Posted by Dec 29, 2024 Family, Holy Word 2 Comments
Broken Relationship: 8 Steps for Christian To Reconcile!

Broken relationship among Christians is not uncommon but can be resolved before it goes too complicated. Broken relationship saddens the heart too much, but today’s message will explain the causes and the best steps to reconciling a broken relationship.

7 Characteristics of Broken Relationship

1. Emotional distance and distress

2. Conflict

3. Unresolved issues that undermine the connection between individuals

4. Feelings of isolation, sadness, and anxiety

5. Noticeable communication breakdown

6. When dialogue becomes scarce or filled with tension

7. Loss of trust

Effects of Broken Relationship

1. Negative impact on your physical life

2. Your spiritual life can be hindered from smooth communication to God.

3. A fractured relationship may hinder one’s spiritual growth and ability to engage in communal worship.

4 Causes of Broken Relationship

Broken relationships, especially within the Christian faith, can often stem from various underlying issues:

1. Lack of Communication: Effective communication is fundamental in any relationship; when individuals fail to express their thoughts, feelings, or concerns, misunderstandings can arise. Proverbs 18:13 states, “To answer before listening—that is folly and shame.” This highlights the importance of active listening and open dialogue in maintaining healthy connections.

2. Differing values or life goals: When you and your partner in a relationship have divergent aspirations or moral beliefs, it can lead to significant discord. In 2 Corinthians 6:14, the scripture cautions against being “unequally yoked,” emphasizing the importance of shared values in fostering unity. This divergence can create an environment where your partner feels alienated from you, ultimately resulting in a breakdown of the relationship.

3. Unresolved conflicts also play a critical role in the deterioration of relationships. Failures to address grievances can lead to resentment and bitterness. Ephesians 4:26 advises, “In your anger, do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” This scriptural guidance underscores the necessity of promptly confronting issues to prevent the escalation of conflict.

4. Adversities such as stressful life events, be it job loss, health issues, or family crises, can strain your relationship.

  8 Ways to Reconcile Broken Relationship

Reconciliation in relationships, particularly among Christians, is a deeply valued principle rooted in biblical teachings. The journey towards healing and restored connections can be navigated through a series of intentional steps. Here are ten actionable strategies that you can apply to mend broken relationships.

1. Seek Forgiveness: This foundational step involves acknowledging your own mistakes and genuinely asking for forgiveness from the affected party.

Jesus Christ says: “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” (Matthew chapter 6 verse 14)

2. Practicing humility is vital: When you approach a reconciliatory process with a humble heart, it fosters an atmosphere conducive to healing.

3. Engage in open communication: It is essential to express thoughts and feelings honestly while allowing the other person to share theirs as well.

Taking time to listen actively demonstrates respect and commitment to understanding the other’s perspective and the broken relationship can be mended easily.

4. Showing love and compassion is essential: Small acts of kindness can significantly foster a sense of goodwill and soften hearts.

5. Create a prayerful environment: Inviting GOD into the reconciliation process can yield transformative results, guiding both you and your partner towards mutual understanding and peace.

6. Self-reflection: Submitting yourself to the counsel of the Holy Spirit and assessing your behaviors and the contribution to the relationship can be enlightening and promote your personal growth.

7. Engaging a third-party mediator such as a true servant of GOD can provide an objective view and facilitate constructive conversations.

8. Focus on rebuilding trust: This will require consistent effort, patience, and openness, allowing time for the relationship to heal.

Jesus says: “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him about his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother.”

“But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.”

“And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector.” (Matthew 18: 15-17)

Finally, broken relationship can be resolved if you adhere to these biblical principles. So, your Christian stamina can journey towards reconciliation, fostering stronger and healthier relationships grounded in faith.

Stop Celebrating Halloween? 10 Secrets Christians Must Know!

Posted by Dec 25, 2023 Family, Holy Word Leave a Comment
Stop Celebrating Halloween? 10 Secrets Christians Must Know!

Is it easy to stop celebrating Halloween, popularly accepted as a funny event? With pumpkin spice lattes, spooky decorations, and people dressed up as witches and vampires, but have you ever wondered if Christians should rethink their participation in this tradition? In this article, I will delve into the truth behind Halloween and explore why Christians should stop celebrating Halloween.

Origin of Celebrating Halloween

Halloween, also known as All Hallows’ Eve has a long and intriguing history that dates back thousands of years. Its origins can be traced to the ancient Celtic festival known as Samhain, which marked the end of the harvest season and the beginning of winter.

The Celtic believed that on the night of October 31st, the boundary between the living and the dead was blurred, and spirits could freely roam the earth.

The traditions associated with Samhain included lighting bonfires, wearing costumes to ward off evil spirits, and offering food and drink to appease the souls of the deceased. These practices were later incorporated into Halloween when the holiday spread to other parts of the world.

Over time, Halloween evolved into a secular celebration characterized by costumes, trick-or-treating, jack-o’-lanterns, haunted houses, and parties. While its origins may be rooted in pagan practices, many people today view Halloween as a harmless and fun-filled event.

However, the roots of celebrating Halloween are deeply connected to witchcraft, paganism, and the occult. As Christian, you must stop celebrating Halloween because of its idolatrous origins.

Many of the Halloween traditions we know today have their roots in ancient pagan rituals. For example, the practice of carving pumpkins into jack-o’-lanterns originated from the Irish tradition of carving turnips and placing candles inside to scare away evil spirits.

Trick-or-treating, another popular Halloween activity, has ties to the medieval practice of “souling.” During this time, poor people would go door-to-door begging for food in exchange for prayers for the souls of the dead. Over time, this practice evolved into children going door-to-door asking for treats.

Do not be deceived by the popular messages in the church telling you that it is all about fun. As a child of GOD who worship HIM in spirit and truth, is it possible to separate the fun and frivolous aspects of Halloween from its historical and spiritual connotations?

5 Bible Verses that Stop Celebrating Halloween

I am displeased to see how the celebration of Halloween holiday becomes a controversial topic amongst Christians.

The Christian perspective on Halloween varies among different denominations and individuals. Some Christians view Halloween as harmless fun and an opportunity to engage with their communities. They argue that the holiday has lost much of its religious significance and has become more about costumes, candy, and parties.

On the other hand, some Christians believe that Halloween is inherently linked to witchcraft, paganism, and the occult. They see it as a celebration that promotes darkness and evil, and they choose not to participate in any Halloween-related activities.

We must not be ignorant of the Devil’s devices that were put in use to separate us. Since, our faith is attached to the word of GOD then we must respect the view of the LORD as regards idolatry practices mentioned in the scriptures below:

1. The LORD detest costumes (painting)

“And when you are plundered, what will you do? Though you clothe yourself with crimson, though you adorn yourself with ornaments of gold, though you enlarge your eyes with paint, in vain you will make yourself fair; Your lovers will despise you; They will seek your life.” (Jeremiah 4:30)

2. GOD Warned Not to Reverence the Dead

“There shall not be found among you anyone who makes his son or his daughter pass through the fire, or one who practices witchcraft, or a soothsayer, or one who interprets omens, or a sorcerer, or one who conjures spells, or a medium, or a spiritist, or one who calls up the dead. “For all who do these things are an abomination to the LORD…” (Deuteronomy 18:10-12)

3. Witchcraft Practices is an Abomination

“A man or a woman who is a medium, or who has familiar spirits, shall surely be put to death; they shall stone them with stones. Their blood shall be upon them.” (Leviticus 20:27)

4. Halloween Related Practices End in Hell

“But the cowardly, unbelieving, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)

5. Not to Join Worldly Entertainment

“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.

And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” (Romans 12:1-2)

Since there are no scriptures in the Bible that supports celebrating Halloween, then it is not a holy practice. Life is not neutral, if you participate in the event then you support idolatry. It is wise you stop celebrating Halloween because it is not pleasing to the LORD!

10 Spiritual Effects to Stop Celebrating Halloween and What You Should Do!

As Christians, it is essential you consider God’s perspective on Halloween. While the Bible does not specifically address Halloween, it does provide principles and guidance that can help shape your understanding.

1. Manifestation of Darkness

Halloween afflicts your spirit because often it includes themes of death, occult practices, and glorification of evil, which do not align with the values of light and truth that Christians are called to uphold.

The Bible encourages you to avoid participating in activities associated with darkness (Ephesians 5:11).

2. Mixing with the World

You must stop celebrating Halloween because it focuses on pagan rituals and secular traditions, and it blur the line between the values of the world and the values of God’s kingdom.

The Bible calls you to be set apart from the world (Romans 12:2).

3. Dishonoring God

Celebrating Halloween does not glorify God in your life, and it is offensive to the LORD.

Christians are called to honor and glorify God in all they do (1 Corinthians 10:31).

4. Lack of Discernment

Origin and symbolism of Halloween contradicts biblical principles, so it makes it easy for your spirit to be consistently tormented by spirits of Anti-Christ.

The Bible encourages you to practice discernment in all areas of life (1 Thessalonians 5:21).

5. Ineffective Evangelism

You must stop celebrating Halloween because it sends a mixed messages to non-believers about Christian faith and our values.

Christians are called to be a light to the world and to influence others positively (Matthew 5:14-16).

6. Not Prioritizing Love

Halloween can sometimes promote fear, violence, and selfishness, which are contrary to the love that Christians are called to demonstrate.

The Bible emphasizes the importance of love for God and others (Matthew 22:37-39).

7. Participation in Occult Practices

Celebration of Halloween gets you involved in occult practices directly or indirectly and your spirit would be controlled by the power of darkness.

The Bible strictly warns against engaging in occult practices, such as witchcraft, divination, and contacting spirits (Deuteronomy 18:10-12).

8. Maintaining Cold Spiritual Status

Encourage Christians to stop celebrating Halloween because it makes them to be spiritually two-faced!

Christians are called to protect their conscience and avoid participating in activities that may cause them to stumble or compromise their faith (QUOTE REVELATION ON LUKEWARM).

9. Focusing on Deceits

Halloween may offer ‘entertainment and enjoyment’, but it does not align with the righteousness of GOD.

The Bible encourages believers to focus on what is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, and commendable (Philippians 4:8).

10. Worldly Celebration that Sucks.

You must stop celebrating Halloween because the popular event does not edify you but disconnects your spirit from the presence of the Almighty GOD.

 

I encourage you to stop celebrating Halloween because it is obvious that the annual event can bewitch anyone, so I admonish you to study the Bible carefully and understand the voice of the Holy Spirit before you engage in any famous celebration in the world. The Devil is doing all his best to stain the Christians’ ‘white garment’.   

Family Conflict in Christian Home: 10 Causes and How to Solve them!

Posted by Jun 11, 2023 Family, Holy Word , 2 Comments
Family Conflict in Christian Home: 10 Causes and How to Solve them!

Family conflict in Christian home is not a strange occurrence and cannot be eradicated but if not resolved with the help of the Holy Spirit, then it becomes a useful opportunity for the evil spirits to torture and break-up the Christian family.

According to Forbes in recent statistics, 70% to 80% of Americans consider their families dysfunctional. It is not good news but if you are going through any form of domestic crisis, today’s message will explain to you the causes and how to solve the family conflict in Christian home.

 What is Family Conflict in Christian Home?

Family conflict is a form of bitter crisis that occurs in the home that leads to collapse of peace and absence of harmony. If not resolved quickly then it can lead to family feud, separation or divorce. Family conflict in Christian home simply refers to disconnection from the Holy Spirit when uncomfortable issues arise.  

 5 Heart-touching Quotes about Family Conflict

Since no spiritual status is above family crisis then I want you to benefit from the quotes below which I love so much:

1. “Prayer, desperate prayer, seems so simple, but it’s a step rarely taken by those in family conflict.” – Erwin W. Lutzer

2. “Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” – William James

3. “It is easy to damage relationships when conflict resolutions do not work out. But resolving conflicts is not an impossible task and as long as it is approached with respect and effective communication is applied, it can be a rewarding process that can further strengthen relationships.” – John Ward

4. “Interestingly, when we are in conflict, we are not at our best; in fact, we are most often at our worst. We can be filled with our own pain, fear, uncertainty, righteous indignation, power struggle, self-righteousness, anger, and punitive desires.” – Hesha Abrams

5. “Conflict cannot survive without your participation.” – Wayne Dyer

 10 Causes of Family Conflict in Christian home

1. Communication breakdown

This can happen when family members don’t feel heard or understood, or when there are misunderstandings or miscommunications.

2. Differences in beliefs in values

This occurs in Christian homes where family members have different interpretations of scripture, or when they have different opinions on moral or ethical issues.

3. Financial Stress

It can arise from a variety of factors, such as job loss, debt, or disagreements about spending habits.

4. Parenting Disagreement

This is a common cause of family conflict in Christian home because both parents have unique perspectives and experiences that shape their parenting styles.

5. The interference of Relatives

In-laws, grandparents, siblings, step-children, etc., can all create stress within a family if not properly controlled.

6. Bad Orientation about Sex

Crisis springs up among spouses when frequency and satisfaction of intimacy becomes an issue. And commotion also occurs when parents try to make the children to understand the right time and true usefulness of sex due to the corrupt acts going-on in the society.

7. Distribution of Household work

It’s a potential cause of conflict at home. You need to see how I argue with my wife about the chores I won’t do…I make it funny at the end of the day or else…

8. Unequal Physical and Spiritual Level of Understanding

This factor is a major cause of family conflict in Christian home because the spouse with a higher level gets angry easily due to lower expectations and parents get mad at the children because they expect the children to be brilliant as they are.

9. High tasking job or a church role

Work-conflict is no more news around the world which is a strong cause of family conflict and that is the reason many Pastor’s children are wayward – no time for parental guidance!

10. Inability to identify the period of Temptation

No family on earth can be so perfect to escape the period of temptation. Strife arises when temptation is seen as weakness or unavoidable opportunity to mess up.   

 10 Practical Family Conflict Resolutions for Christian Homes

My home will have broken by now but thanks to the powerful steps below that sustain it and I implore you to follow the points below:

1. Firstly, all Family members must Love the LORD

The first love of every member of your home must be to the LORD. So, read about GOD and understand His will, then your first affection should stick to HIM. Then your other family members take the second position of love in your heart.

2. Your home must be filled with the Holy Spirit

I am not talking about the false speaking in tongues all around us. I mean every member of your family must attain a spirit level where they can hear GOD speak to their inner ears. Family conflict in Christian home would become history if every member hears from the Holy Spirit before acting.

3. Reference to the Bible for Resolution

Many arguments can be resolved if the Holy Bible is used as your reference for resolution. If every member has First Love for GOD and filled with the Holy Spirit, then misconceptions of the Bible passages about selfish interests won’t occur.

4. Create a Family Altar

Family Altar is the space and time created daily for you and your family members to worship, pray and praise the LORD. In my home we find it difficult to sustain conflict so we resolve it before going to the family altar. Thus, forgive and learn to take responsibility without excuses.

5. Do Things Together

You understand each other much more when you do household chores together. Wine and dine at the same table and play together in your compound.

6. Disallow Third Party Interference

I am not against socializing with in-laws but can you make it an annual thing? Don’t seek for help from all friends because their home may be terrible than yours! If the family conflict in your home cannot be resolved with five steps above then seek counsel from a married God-fearing servant of GOD.

7. A gentle answer turns away wrath

Family conflict in Christian home will cease when all members respect one another, listen carefully and speak without yelling or cursing…

8. Don’t follow the Worldly Style

The worldly culture allows abuse, cheat, separation, divorce etc.

9. Run a common Purse like the Disciples

Your spouse and you must have a strong financial understanding of your incomes…no need to hide. Spend responsibly and save wisely. Your children will grow up to follow your footsteps.

10. Speak out when going through Temptation

This step is a powerful one that can prevent family conflict in Christian home. Spouse should share with partner while children should share with their parents. Then their prayers and counselling done in love will defeat the power of such temptation.

  5 Bible Verses about Family Clash

1. “And I looked, and arose and said to the nobles, to the leaders, and to the rest of the people, “Do not be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, great and awesome, and fight for your brethren, your sons, your daughters, your wives, and your houses.” Nehemiah 4:14

2. “Moreover, if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother.” Matthew 18:15

3. “Here am I and the children whom the LORD has given me! We are for signs and wonders in Israel from the LORD of hosts, who dwells in Mount Zion.” Isaiah 8:18

4. “For whoever does the will of My Father in heaven is My brother and sister and mother.” Matthew 12:50

5. “He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.” Matthew 10:37

5 Inspiring Prayers to Solve Family Conflict in Christian Home

1. Prayer for Forgiveness

“Our Father in heaven I ask you forgive us for our wrong doings. Pardon us for our failure to hear from you before we act. Wash us and make us clean in Jesus name.”

2. Prayer for Peace

“LORD, my family bows before you and we seek for your powerful intervention to stop the family conflicts that resurface in our midst always, make a pronouncement of peace into this family in Jesus name.”

3. Prayer for Healing

“Heavenly Father, I come to you with this burden that I have been carrying for a long time. Let every hurt, pain and bad memory be washed away with the Blood of Jesus Christ. Cleanse us from resentment and bitterness and help us to love one another just the way you love us.

4. Prayer for Love

Dear LORD, restore your joy in my family and fill our home with the Spirit of your love. Open our eyes to see and understand what it means to love You and love ourselves in Jesus name.

5. Prayer for Blessings

Yahweh, I pray you bless my home with physical wealth and spiritual enrichment and your glory to shine on us, please put an end to family conflict in my Christian home in Jesus name.

 

Family conflict in Christian home is resolvable without getting out of control if you build the foundation of your family on love of God, patience, humility, spiritual understanding, and a solid family altar of worship to the LORD. May the LORD continue to help us keep our family firm and help us defeat all the plans of the Devil who wants endless crises in the family settings on earth.

10 Qualities of a Strong Christian Family

Posted by May 19, 2023 Family, Holy Word 10 Comments
10 Qualities of a Strong Christian Family

A strong Christian family is a bonded relationship among people of same gene that cannot be separated by either spiritual evil forces or bad social influences in the society.

As a Christian, you may be looking for ways to strengthen your family and build a household that reflects your faith. Today’s message will explain the qualities and characteristics of a strong Christian family to you.

How Does GOD Want a Strong Christian Family to Be?

“But from the beginning of the creation, God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, ‘and the two shall become one flesh’; so, then they are no longer two, but one flesh.” (Mark 10:6-8)

The LORD wants a family to be built on the foundation of a man and woman becoming one flesh through marriage. This union is meant to be exclusive and lifelong, with the couple leaving behind their respective families to form a new generation.

So, the following cultural practices do not originate from the LORD; homosexual marriage, adoption of children by gay partners, polyandry, refusal to give birth to children, lesbian marriage, transgender and the like.

Jesus Christ says by their fruits you shall know them, thus any church supporting such abominable practices above is not of GOD but of the Devil.

What is Jesus Christ’s Teaching about Christian Family? 

“But He answered and said to the one who told Him, “Who is My mother and who are My brothers?” And He stretched out His hand toward His disciples and said, “Here are My mother and My brothers!”

“For whoever does the will of My Father in heaven is My brother and sister and mother.” (Matthew 12:48-50)

Jesus Christ emphasized the importance of spiritual kinship, stating that those who do the will of God are his brothers, sisters, and mother. This highlights the qualities of a Christian family, which include a strong faith, a commitment to living according to God’s teachings, and a sense of unity and love among its members.

Ultimately, a Christian family is one that prioritizes its relationship with God above everything on earth and seeks to live a life that reflects the LORD’s values and principles of holiness.

5 Characteristics of a Strong Christian Family

Christian families are founded on the belief that God is the center of their lives. They recognize that they are nothing without God and that He is their Creator, Savior, Healer, Comforter, and Provider.

1. The husband is the head of the family and is responsible for providing for the family’s financial, emotional, and spiritual needs.

2. Wife submits and respects her husband and not a lazy partner. (Proverbs 31:10-31)

3. The children obey their parents and are always innocent. (Matthew 18:3-5)

4. Strong Christian family serves as the salt and light of the world.

5. A godly family is built upon the foundation of a strong and committed marriage.

10 Qualities of a Good Christian Family

1. No joke with Prayer Altar

One of the secrets of my conflict-free family is the bond we enjoy in the presence of the LORD when we pray together daily for thirty minutes.

Family altar strengthens connection with the LORD, increases the faith of parents and children during good and challenging times. You can all speak in one voice and pull-down mountains.

2. Quick to Forgive

A strong Christian family settles their differences quickly before going to bed. Forgiveness means letting go of anger and resentment towards others, even when they have hurt us deeply.

This quality makes family prayers to be answered by the LORD very fast and spirit of hatred cannot survive in such a home.

3. Giving Room for Grace

Grace means extending kindness and love to your family members, even when they don’t deserve it. It means recognizing that we are all on the learning curve to become perfect and in need of God’s grace.

4. Good Communication and Listening Attitude

Communication and listening are essential qualities of a strong Christian family. It’s important to create an environment where everyone feels comfortable expressing their thoughts and feelings. This means actively listening to each other without judgment or interruption.

It also means being willing to have difficult conversations and working through conflicts in a respectful and constructive way. By prioritizing communication and listening, you can build stronger relationships and create a more harmonious household.

5. Showing Unconditional Love

The household of a quality strong Christian family does not have characteristics such as selfishness and self-centeredness. Agape love will allow peace and mercy from the LORD to be abundant in your home.

6. Unity and Teamwork

Unity and teamwork are crucial qualities of a strong Christian family. When family members work together towards common goals and support each other through challenges, they build a sense of unity and belonging.

This can be achieved through regular family meetings, where everyone has a chance to share their thoughts and feelings, and through working together on projects or activities. By fostering a sense of teamwork and unity, families can create a strong foundation for their relationships and build a sense of purpose and meaning in their lives.

7. Prioritizes the Word of God 

It is not uncommon in our generation that strange teachings and false doctrines are destroying many families but a strong Christian family cannot be affected because daily group bible study is their favourite practice.

Read your bible together, meditate on the word of God and share scriptural revelations together. Trust me, your household will be spiritually fortified because it works for me so much.

8. Wine and Dine Together

It’s a good practice that connects the family. Christian families prioritize spending time together and sharing meals, as practiced by the disciples of Jesus Christ. (Acts 2:46).

You must understand the importance of healthy eating habits and also involve your children in meal planning and preparation.

9. Produces Fruits of the Spirit

This is a crucial quality of a strong Christian family. Christian families are characterized by the manifestation of the fruit of the Spirit, which includes love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

All members of your family must be encouraged to practice all the good virtues recorded in the Bible. Living a holy life pleases GOD so much and it presents you and your family as light in the midst of darkness of the world. Putting on seductive dresses, tattoo, artificial make-ups and the likes can’t make you and family different from ungodly family.

10. Sharing the Gospel

A strong Christian family knows that the mission given to them by Jesus Christ is to go out there to share the Gospel of salvation and not to waste their time in gatherings that are after their money. Use your social media platforms and the websites to share the Good News to people.

I cannot quantify the blessings the LORD keeps releasing to me and my family for practicing this act.

 

I implore you to practice the ten qualities of a strong Christian family explained above consistently and I am sure you will contact me to share your wonderful testimonies about the strong love, joy and blessings from the LORD that will fill your household.

15 Most Common Reasons for Divorce You Must Know!

Posted by Dec 31, 2021 Family, Holy Word Leave a Comment
15 Most Common Reasons for Divorce You Must Know!

Divorce is painful to couples and unhealthy to their future generations. So, it is wise to know the common reasons for divorce which helps you to make your marriage stronger and unbreakable.

Today’s sermon highlights the popular and unpopular causes of divorce. And the intension of this message is to discourage divorce at all cost because God hates divorce.

“For the LORD God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence,” says the LORD of hosts. “Therefore, take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.”” (Malachi 2:16)

According to the United Nations, the Maldives has the highest divorce rate, with 10.97 divorces taking place per 1,000 people each year. Belarus has the second highest worldwide divorce rate, with 4.63 per 1,000, followed by the US.

The CDC reports that there are approximately 827,000 divorces every year. That is roughly 68,916 divorces per month or 2,265 divorces per day.

It would be a joy to the LORD if the number of Christians in these statistics can tend towards zero…

15 Major Reasons for Divorce You Must Avoid!

1. Young Age; A lasting marriage won’t be too impatient to start at teenage or adolescent age.

2. Lack of sound Courtship period; Failure to understand individual difference to some extent before marriage can short-live such relationship. Your courtship must not be a short one and if it doesn’t flow then your marriage cannot be successful.

3. Little or no education on marriage; Learning from Elders, Pastors and other counsellors before marriage helps to destroy the forces of divorce.

4. Financial recklessness; Divorce is imminent if marriage starts on a poverty level or lack of knowledge on money management.

5. Not ready to take responsibilities; when one or both partners lack commitment to sustain the home when things get tough.

6. Toxic communication; careless talks, hot argument, verbal abuse, coarse jokes, not having time to listen to each other must be avoided in marriage.

7. Long-distance marriage; God did not design marriage for husband and wife to live separately.

“Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24)

8. Religious difference; It is too risky in this generation for a Christian to marry someone who is not knowledgeable and faithful to the word of God in the Bible.

9. Sexual intimacy; It’s uncommon for both couples to have the same drive, so both must shift ground for a common point of understanding.

10. Extramarital affairs; Exercise self-control when dealing with opposite sex.

11. Addiction; Drug abuse, alcoholics and gambling are terrible features that kills marriage.

12. Domestic Abuse; Angry moment is inevitable but hitting your spouse is demonic. Go out for a walk when the room is tensed.

13. Cohabitation; Living together with your partner before marriage would likely cause divorce in the future because it is against the plan of God for a happy marriage.

14. Premarital pregnancy; This is a fruit of fornication against God’s will.

15. Parents’ divorce; You and your spouse must put extra effort to keep your marriage by not following the footstep of your parents who subscribed to divorce as a best option.

The points above are the features that leads to divorce, so be faithful to the LORD and to your spouse and avoid all the reasons for divorce.