22 Character that can hurt Marriage; Work against Divorce!

The incidence of hurt marriage is spreading like wildfire! And the best we can do is to identify the ‘viruses and worms’ attacking the marriage programming of our generation.

The level of divorce and remarriage is worrisome in the Christendom. Prophet Malachi says: “…Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. “For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one’s garment with violence,” Says the LORD of hosts.”

There are some terrible things that happen in the marriage, but do not quickly file for divorce on matters that can be resolved amicably. God hates divorce!

I remembered the painful story of Dr. Richard:

“Eight years ago, the wife of Dr. Richard Batista was slowly dying due to failing kidneys. The Batistas’s marriage was already on shaky ground due to Dawnell’s deteriorating health but just then, Richard decided to take a more active part in his wife’s recovery and gave her his own kidney.

It was magical; after Dawnell’s body rejected the transplants from her dad and brother, it turned out she and Richard were a perfect 1-in-700,000 match. Surely it was destiny, and it could have gone down as one of the most romantic gift ever (he gave her part of himself).

It could have, if the recovered Mrs. Batista did not then allegedly defied the bed with another person. The husband, enraged over the lack of gratitude, demanded his kidney back.

Someone presumably explained that the courts likely would not reward him the right to go to work on his wife with a butcher knife, so he is asking for $1.5 million instead, which is presumably what it costs to get a good replacement kidney off the black market…” Too bad to experience!

Run away from the following character that can hurt marriage:

1. Dis-trustfulness

2. Nagging irritates your spouse

3. Laziness can hurt marriage

4. Conjecture breaks marriage

5. Arguments spark bitterness

6Lack of Correlative Respect

7. Keeping helpful secrets from your spouse

8. Unforgiving

9. Lies

10. Extramarital Relations

11. Bad Communication skills

12. More Interaction with friends than your spouse

13. Spending little time with your spouse

14. Love for Party and Clubbing

15. Not fervent in Spiritual matters

16. Not Sharing Thoughts with each other

17. Careless Talks and Jokes

18. Public exposure of your spouse’s inadequacies

19. Rejecting Corrections hurt marriage

20. Lack of God’s Knowledge in the Bible can hurt marriage

21. Hot Temperament

22. Always wearing a sad face!


Do everything to keep your marriage, either in the midst of the storm or in the rosy garden of abundance. The popular practice of divorce and remarry is ungodly, and it’s not for genuine Christians.

“So Jesus said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” (Mark 10:11-12)

Anyone who divorce would either remain single till death, or reconcile with his/her spouse.

I deduce from my marital experience that if I am faithful to the Lord in all my ways, then it will be difficult to hurt marriage.

About Ekundayo

I am an evangelist in the vineyard of the Lord since 2000 moving from one place to another to spread the gospel of Jesus.

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