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5 Ways to Save your Marriage from Crashing

Posted by Jul 26, 2015 Family, Holy Word, Podcast 1 Comment
5 Ways to Save your Marriage from Crashing

God designed marriage as a perfect plan to overcome the burden of loneliness in man. Genesis chapter 2 verse 24 says, ‘’ Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.’’
It’s no more news that there has been a high rate of marriage crashing in our generation. God is not pleased with this trend, because He hates divorce. Malachi chapter 2 verses 16 says, ‘’ For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one’s garment with violence,” Says the LORD of hosts. “Therefore take heed to your spirit that you do not deal treacherously’’.
Marriage involves the use of some spiritual skills to prevent it from crashing;

1. Maintain the Family Prayer Time

Do not allow the rush of the morning, or the tiredness of the night to snatch the family prayer time from you. I had tried this method and it has been a good medium of solving marital conflicts. When I had misunderstanding with my wife, I always find it difficult to sleep over it, because the two of us respect the family prayer time before going to bed. Thus, we humbly solve our differences before the Lord so that our prayers will be answered.

In the book of Matthew chapter 5 verse 23 and 24, Jesus says: ‘’ Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.’’

Prayers with your spouse in the morning and at night release an unbreakable supernatural bond to your marriage.

2. Sharing the Word of God

I asked a couple who were so hot to crash their marriage if they read the Bible together every day. I was shocked to discover that none of the couple reads Bible except on Sunday service.
If the government is taking away Bible from the public places, then it is disastrous for couples to hide theirs in the private home. The word of God is powerful and highly significant to the unity of a marriage. When you have a contrary opinion to a decision your spouse intend to take, do not organize a hot debate center in your living room. The best action is to argue with respect to God’s word, pick your Bible and read through related passages. If your spouse’s decision is on God’s side, then give your consent.
Otherwise, tell your spouse with a respectful voice that such decision is against God’s will. Sharing the word of God together with your spouse gives a greater chance of common reasoning which will reduce hot argument drastically.

3. Doing Things Together

A Christian marriage understands that both the husband and wife is helper to each other. Doing domestic work together such as; laundry, painting, cooking and cleaning are all filled with fun.

Doing things together establishes a mutual understanding between you and your spouse, and it discourages conflicts. A lot of couples carelessly find it easy to crash their marriage, because they do things alone. But in a condition where both couples do things together, to break-up will be a hard nut to crack.

4. Learn to Say ‘Sorry’

Some marriages stand the risk of crashing when the spouse at fault in a particular matter could not say ‘sorry my love’. Apologizing for doing something wrong rekindles the light of love in the marriage.

5. Don’t Make Jest of your Spouse

Some spouse thought it is all about fun when they expose their spouse’s error in the public. It does more harm than good. For instance, a woman at a wedding party yelled at her husband to button his sleeve, everyone around him laughed at his improper dressing but deep in his heart it was a public embarrassment.

It is the responsibility of both the husband and wife to give their hearts to God. Every marriage controlled by God cannot crash. So, keep your marriage intact by drawing close to God…

Tattoo: God’s View to Tattoo on Your Body

Posted by Jul 16, 2015 Family, Holy Word, Podcast, Word of Faith, Youths , , 1 Comment
Tattoo: God’s View to Tattoo on Your Body

The oldest discovery of tattoo on human skin was found on the upper lip of a Chinchorro culture mummy from South America, dating to about 6,000BC, while the oldest direct evidence of tattoo in Europe is the body of Otzi the iceman, dating from the late 4,000BC.

Tattoo had been an ancient practice for different purposes across the world. For instance, the Greeks and Romans used tattoo as punishment and identification of slaves and criminals. While in some part of the world, tattoo is an idolatry practice to show solidarity to idols.

Presently, tattoo is referred to as fashion in the western civilization. One in every five adult in the United States has at least one tattoo on their skin, and women have the highest figure according to the results of The Harris Poll. It is unfortunate that most of the film artists, musicians and sport men are promoting tattoo through the media.

 

Is Tattoo Acceptable for Christians?

Romans chapter 12 verse 1 and 2 says: “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.’’ This passage always struck my heart when I ponder on controversial topics such as this.

As a child of God, your body is designed for God, and not to the fashions of the world. The teachings of God were different from the culture of the Canaanites, Hittites, Amorites, Perizzites, Hivites and Jebusites who lived on the promise land, so He warned the Israelites to destroy them and never to follow their customs. Deuteronomy chapter 7 says: “…and when the LORD your God delivers them over to you, you shall conquer them and utterly destroy them. You shall make no covenant with them nor show mercy to them’’.

Piercing, cutting and tattoo on the skin were popular practices in the midst of the heathen to worship their idols and to pacify the infernal deities they dreamt of, and to make them propitious to their deceased friends. God gave the strong warning, because He does not want the Israelite to receive the image and superscription of the dunghill deities.

Four reasons for Christians to Stay Away From Tattoo

1. God is the sole creator of your body, so any tattoo that could change the natural appearance of your skin is not acceptable by Him. God does not want you to idolize your skin, because He is a jealous God. Deuteronomy chapter 4 verses 24 say: “For the LORD your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God’’.
2. Bleeding of the skin: The tattoo artist uses a machine with the attachment of needles piercing the skin repeatedly. Every puncture of the needles inserts tiny ink droplets and this process causes bleeding and pains to the body.
3. There is the high risk of viral infections such as HIV and hepatitis through the use of the needles.
4. There is no scriptural reference that supports the practice of tattoo.
Tattoo might look like an attractive fashion, but not all what looks good is beneficial to the body. Christians must be careful not to be carried away by the lustful desire of tattoo which has no spiritual benefit. Paul knew what your body can push you to do, but He warned in Romans chapter 6 verses 12, “Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts’’.
I belief tattoo was not mentioned in the New Testament, because it was not a threat to the faith of the early Christians. I discovered the view of God on tattoo when He was teaching the Israelite how to live an acceptable life. Leviticus chapter 19 verses 28 say, “You shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor tattoo any marks on you: I am the LORD’’.
Tattoo is becoming popular, and you must not be deceived by the false preachers who support the wrong fashion. God cares for your skin so much. I consider the use of tattoo as an abuse to the body created by God.
The inks of tattoo change the natural appearance of the skin created by God. If we surrender our body to God as a genuine Christian, then you will agree with me that tattoo is completely unnecessary in the Christendom.

Gay Marriage: Is it a Boring Relationship?

Posted by Jul 5, 2015 Family, Holy Word, Youths 3 Comments
Gay Marriage: Is it a Boring Relationship?

Gay marriage is gaining a worldwide recognition as the supreme court of United States ruled on June 26th that States cannot ban same-sex marriage. The U.S. is now the 21st and most populous country to legalize same-sex marriage nationwide.
Is this another sex revolution from the western civilization?

 
The history of gay marriage was traced to the old generation of Abraham in the land of Sodom where the gays insisted to have sex with Lot’s male visitors. Genesis chapter 19 verse 6 to 9 says, “So Lot went out to them through the doorway, shut the door behind him, “See now, I have two daughters who have not known a man; please, let me bring them out to you, and you may do to them as you wish; only do nothing to these men, since this is the reason they have come under the shadow of my roof.”
And they said, “Stand back!” Then they said, “This one came in to stay here, and he keeps acting as a judge; now we will deal worse with you than with them.” So they pressed hard against the man Lot, and came near to break down the door.’’

 
God destroyed the land and all the inhabitants of Sodom and Gomorrah with fire, because of the gay lifestyle and other abominable characters practiced by the people.
The origin of gay marriage is not from God, but the rebellious people who chose to go against the will of God invented the same-sex marriage. When God created human beings, He made marriage to be between a male and a female. Genesis chapter 2 verses 24 says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.’’

 
I implore you not to support this boring relationship of gay marriage which the western civilization intends to spread all over the world. I had searched through the Bible and no verse is in support of gay marriage. Gay marriage is a strong weapon from devil to lure the world into a great abomination. The general acceptability of gay marriage like the time of Sodom and Gomorrah can spark the wrath of God on our generation.

 
The gays and the government of all the countries legalizing same-sex marriage are not Christians. So, Christians must not give-in to this abomination, because the thief is in our midst to destroy the holy matrimonial custom established by God. The first part of John chapter 10 verses 10 describes the function of devil, “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy…’’

 
I don’t know how a normal human being in his/her right senses could fall in love to someone of the same-sex. I’m sure the gays are suffering from a serious mental and spiritual destabilization. The plan of devil is to introduce this abomination to the Christendom, Daniel prophesied this in his book, chapter 11 verses 31, “And forces shall be mustered by him, and they shall defile the sanctuary fortress; then they shall take away the daily sacrifices, and place there the abomination of desolation’’.

 
God dislike gay with all His heart and that was the reason for the law in the book of Leviticus chapter 20 verse 13, “If a man lies with a male as if he were a woman, both men have committed an offense (something perverse, unnatural, abhorrent, and detestable); they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.’’ (Amp)

 
The period of persecution has come for the Christian leaders in the States (God’s own country). The true pastors will prefer to go to jail than to accept gay marriage in the house of the Lord. I recommend you stay away from any church that accepts the practice of gay marriage, because such gathering had compromised the standard of God for marriage.

 
I read in the news that the Episcopal Church officially joined Presbyterian Church (U.S.A) and the United Church of Christ on July 2, becoming the third mainline denomination to embrace gay marriage rites. Scriptures had made it clear in the book of Mathew chapter 7 verses 16, “You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thorn bushes or figs from thistles?’’.
The leaders of these churches are not ministers of God anymore, because their choice to support same-sex marriage had no scriptural basis. They had chosen to support the plans of devil against humanity. This new movement must not be embraced by other Continents who love to imitate western civilization.
Gay marriage is a threat to the good family standard of our society (Father, Mother and Children).

 

The Danger of Same-Sex Marriage

• Same–sex marriage has no productive sex-life to offer both partners.

 
• Gay marriage has no children to multiply; it will be a cheat to adopt, and if the gay partners could think of adopting a child that originates from a traditional marriage, then it is a clear signal that such gay partners need a Christian pastor who can use the word of God to deliver them from mental bondage.

 
• Gay marriage will reduce the population of the society which can lead to extinction of human race.

 
I urge Christians all over the whole world to disallow gay marriage in their churches and to be bold to face any persecution from any supporter of such abominable act.
The church must reject gay marriage. This is not an abuse of human right, but it is the sustenance of God’s right upon the church who established the traditional marriage of one man one woman.

God’s View on Divorce and Remarriage

Posted by May 13, 2015 Family, Holy Word, Podcast 2 Comments
God’s View on Divorce and Remarriage

Divorce and remarriage is becoming a popular practice among the Christians and this signifies a serious disaster in our communities. The view of God to divorce and remarriage is different from the legal rights claimed by many divorcee.
Global records of marriages per 1,000 people decreases from 8.06 in 1960 to 4.86 in 2022, while divorces per 1,000 people increases from 1.01 in 1960 to 2.03 in 2022. And, it is sad to know that divorce rate by major religions in the world reveals; Protestant 34%, Muslim 31%, Jewish 30%, Catholicism 21%, Buddhism 10% and Hinduism 1%.

In the beginning of human existence, God discovered it was not good for man to be alone so He decided to give Adam a wife made from his ribs. God used the ‘rib style’ to create Eve, because He wants to set up an unbreakable bond between the first husband and wife.

The Bible says in Genesis 2:22-24, “Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (NKJV)

The plan of God is not for married couples to live separately. He creates couples to be helpmates, so you will agree with me that divorce is not in the master plan of God for human.

Malachi chapter 2 verse 16 says: “For the LORD God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence,” Says the LORD of hosts. “Therefore take heed to your spirit that you do not deal treacherously.” (NKJV)

What can Cause Divorce?

Some common reasons by couples who involve in divorce include;

1. Domestic violence and abuse

2. Infidelity

3. Lack of equality in the marriage

4. Lack of courtship

5. Marriage at a tender age and

6. Addiction

7. Poverty

8. Lack of commitment

All these causes can be avoided if our generation will accept the Bible as our road map for taking decisions in life. The power of choice given to everyone by GOD is a great contributing effect to the popularity of divorce and remarriage.

God’s view on divorce and remarriage was clear when the Pharisees discussed the issue with our Lord Jesus Christ.

Matthew chapter 19 and verse 4 to 6 says: “And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ “and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? “So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” (NKJV)

When God gives you the freedom to choose and marry whoever you love, He takes the record on your wedding day. He is not happy whenever anyone put asunder. God is happy when you endure and keep your marriage intact. The best way to make a strong marriage is to practice a genuine love with your spouse.

God is always sad to hear couples filing for divorce, because He had made the husband and wife to become one flesh. So, it is an unpleasant experience for a flesh to be separated.

The main cause of unhappiness in broken homes is the disastrous effect of tearing a flesh apart. Linda Waite, a Sociologist in the University of Chicago analysed the relationships between marriage, divorce and happiness using the National Survey of Family and Households. She reported that unhappily married adults who had divorced were no happier than those who had stayed married. Some studies report that cohabitation before marriage is correlated with an increased divorce rate.

How can Divorce and Remarriage affect the Family?

Divorce can be described as emotional wounds filled with incurable pains to the victim. So, the effects of divorce are many which include:

• Children of divorced parents have a higher chance of behavioural problems than those of non-divorced parents
• Divorced person could have higher rates of clinical depression
• They seek formal Psychiatric care at higher rate and
• Have lower life expectancies

Jesus Christ discourages remarriage in Matthew chapter 19 verses 9, which says: “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”

If the only cause approved for divorce is adultery, then the separation is not an avenue to remarriage. Jesus gives us the understanding that anyone that re-marries commits adultery because he/she is already one flesh to the other separated partner. This implies that both divorced are to stay single in all the days of their life, or to resolve their differences and come together as husband and wife again.

I strongly believe the rate of divorce and remarriage can reduce drastically if we educate our young ones to get involve in courtship at a matured age before marriage. Marriage built on the foundation of true love is unbreakable even at the midst of strong storms of life. Everyone of us in marriage must subscribe to God’s view of one man-one woman-one flesh-no asunder!